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Grief, as a feeling or emotion, can take many forms. Most involve loss of one kind or another on a personal level such as losing a close relation or friend thru death or emotional breakup. A person also experiences grief when they lose other things that are close to them, such as when they quit smoking (they grieve the loss of cigarettes) or even after a car accident (they grieve the loss of a favored car). Grief comes into our lives in many ways and learning to recognize and appropriately deal with it allow us to become a more serene, satisfied child of God. (See: Isaiah 53:4)
In this group, we will work on learning how to recognize and deal with our own grief in different areas of life, and also learn to recognize grief in others and learn how to help them. Members input here in the group is very much welcome and the only requirement for membership is that you have a desire to learn to recognize, cope, and work thru grief that you may have or help others to do so.

 

GROUP LEADER The Group leader for this group is Terry Stonebarger

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  • I pray everyone is coping with the stress of grief. Please give any suggestions on how you would like to see this group go, things you might want to discuss and let me know or just open up a discussion. Thank you all.
    • Some might take it wrong if you try to bring them to CHRIST at the time of a personal loss of a loved one. I am speaking of this because of the way I was after my mom passed. At that time I wanted nothing to do with anyone, let alone someone trying to save my soul. For a while I shut myself off from everyone I knew and isolated myself in my room with the TV running all the time and on FB just being selfish thinking of only myself. Not caring that the rest of the family was hurting just as bad as I was. I wanted nothing to do with anyone and it took a long time for me to get a grip. A person might try to carefully but also respectful of feelings approach a grieving person to tell them about JESUS and their salvation, but don't be surprised if you get smacked down by the person. If that happens back off and give them room. I know I needed time before I could even talk and carry on a real conversation with my husband and that truly hurt him because he loved Mom too and he needed me and I couldn't help him because I felt like I was drowning. Since I have gotten this far and survived without doing myself in (which she was scared I would try that again after she was gone) when I find myself in a situation that I am with someone in mourning, I will do my best just hug them and hold them letting them know I'm there for them. I have only been to one funeral since we buried Mom and that was my Mother-in-law's. I fought hard to keep my cool and be supportive for Ralph. So, what I'm saying I think is if you do decide to approach them to talk with them about their faith at a time like that be careful and caring for their feelings at that time.
    • Hi Terry, I know I have mentioned this in the past, in connection with our mutual friend, and also know that you are still not over your mother's passing, and I know it has affected you so much sister. So I wanted you to ask yourself Terry, what would your mother wish for you, to be mourning year on year, or to get on with your life and enjoy your kids and grands? What do you think?
    • Oh my, my friend I know exactly what she would say. LOL She'd tell me to stop this nonsense and get on with my life. She is where she should be and so am I. I am among the living and have family that still need teaching about the LORD and our faith, as well as morals and so much other things that there is enough on this side of the river of life to keep me busy till the cows come home or CHRIST returns. I have been doing quite a bit of thinking lately and I am going to try to make some changes about how I see things and maybe if my thoughts are right, then there should be some changes seen in me in the not too distant future that I pray the LORD will approve of greatly. To explain it simply I am working on bringing positive thinking and attitude along with deeds to the front with JESUS leading the way. I will do my best to put Mommy where she belongs in a corner of my heart and the way she lived and cared and taught us how to live, I will use her memory to teach the younger generations about. That is where I'm standing mentally and emotionally at the moment.
    • Good for you my sister, I am praying for the Spirit to give you strength and tenacity to progress with this. believe me Terry with your experiences, you could help so many people.
    • I think there is a huge difference between some private individual trying to bring a grieving person to Christ and a minister doing the same thing from the pulpit. It rather like talking to someone in a car, because you don't look at each other, it seems less personal, and safer. On an individual basis in counselling, we always need the grieving person to take the lead and suggest alternatives that are less devastating. The coulsellor is there to support and be empathic, but here the Christian counsellor has the advantage because we have that certanty of faith, and the love that we reflect from Jesus. I remember counselling a church member whose sister had died after a short illness, she was distraut because as far as she knew, her sister did not know Jesus. The woman has shared her faith many times with her sister, so she had heard the Gospel message, I used the parable about the workers in the vineyard, you know, the one where the laborers arrived at different times during the day, but all received the same pay? The message was one that suggested that her sister may have called on Christ, even at the last moment of life, so there was still hope. This is also one of the approaches that our curate used as well, the object here is to give hope, but with a salvation message.
    • Terry you bring up a great point about being sensitive to others in their grief. We certainly don't all grieve the same way and it's best to trust the Spirit's leading in all of our dealings with others because HE knows what they will best respond to and what they need at any given moment.
    • You're right there Annette. Each of us grieve in our own ways plus I know I didn't grieve the same for Daddy as I did with Mommy. Don't get me wrong, I loved Daddy with my hole heart, but when he passed it was a total shock to all of us. It hit Mommy the worst of course, they'd been together since she was 15 and he passed just shy of their 50th wedding anniversary. I expected Mommy to give up trying to even breath and follow Daddy. So I concentrated on trying to keep her busy. I was so tied up worrying about Mommy that I didn't give Daddy the respect I should have at his passing. When Mommy left this world, I mourned the both of them together. That's when I finally said goodbye to my daddy. I have lost many I've loved in my lifetime, but I have not grieved the same way for any one of them. And I've lost some that I loved very dearly, but when they passed, I said a prayer of thanksgiving because the LORD took them from terrible pain and sickness and I could rejoice because I knew they were right with GOD and would never suffer again. Someone said that we need to treat each person as an individual and in doing that we show them that they are respected on their own merit. I don't always have words to give to a person who is grieving but I can and have most certainly just sat by them and held them and cried with them with no words at all. Sometimes that is just what a person needs is to feel consoled by the physical touch of a hand being held or a gentle hug. It depends on each individual. :-) It also helps to have things like this group to bounce things off of when you have a question on dealing with something like grief.
    • I believe that moments of grief are moments when we can lead people back to the truth of the gospel and I wonder how that can be applied here in this group
    • I am not sure about applying it to this group, but you are right about it being an opportunity Annette. It is certainly a an opportunity for evangelising the unsaved. Back in the eighties we had a curate at the church I was worshipping at who was an absolute marvel at evangelising funerals. Consequently our vicar gave him as many funerals as possible, he brought so many mourners to Christ it was unbelievable. We all thought it was great and praised God for him, but the bishop saw it a different way and said he was "Taking advantage of people when they were vulnerable," can you believe that? It is well known that more people come to faith at times of trial than at any other.
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